I did an image search for "butch identity" recently, and now I think that's probably a lot like what SecUnits could look like. (Since I'm male I of course at first imagined Murderbot looking… well, like me, but I did often think maybe it should be less so. I think the point when Amena called it "third mom" was when my brain did a kind of inflection-point thing and I could imagine Murderbot being a lot less purely-masculine and probably with quite a bit of feminine mixed in. Perhaps quite a *lot*.)

Example: how'd it be if our SecUnit friend looked a little more like this: